Women are so much more subtle about
flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are
not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men
said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at
least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them
out.
#1: Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal
clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around
and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second,
he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll
probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little
more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself,
or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows
you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.
#2: Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell
them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can
I buy it from you when you are done with it?'
#3: Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in
front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every
so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your
disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot
of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.)
#4: Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches
you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see
what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval,
you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try
shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to
approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet
people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.'
#5: IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the
men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice
on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not
only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world.
#6: Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone
watch to see who's checking you out.
#7: Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher
heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you
will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs
high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment
on them.
#8: Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical
position is always a signal you are interested.
#9: Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and
then flash him your most winning smile.
#10: Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and
acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun!
One
of the first rules of flirting is to never do it for the sake of it.
Although flirting is relatively
harmless, you are playing with another’s emotions. Flirting
with someone your not interested in
just isn’t nice. The next rule of flirting is not to worry
about what you say as much as how you
look and what you are doing. When someone sees you, they give slightly
over half of their
attention to how you look. Make sure you look nice and are dressed for
the occasion. You just
want to be noticed, not to shock people
